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mary
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  Do you ever think of situations that come into your life as 'trials'?   I sort of put those terms out of my vocabulary a long time ago.  We went through this horrendous blizzard last weekend.  Some of you may have hear about it.  It dropped 20 inches of snow in our area of Minnesota.  Honestly, I think we could have handled that okay, even though, we spend hours shoveling ourselves out: at work, at home.   We'd had snow the weekend before too, so we weren't really wanting more...so soon, so much.  The drifts were 5-6 feet high.   In the same time frame, Dave's father went into the hospital again.  At 83, he's been dealing with Conjestive Heart Failure for the last few years.   He had a long hospitalization this time, we didn't know if he would live or die....at least I didn't.  Dave and brothers are the primary caregivers to him at this time of his life, and mostly Dave, as we live the closest to him, in the same town.   The combination of pressures felt like a shaken bottle that would explode.  I know I was shaken, or shaking, as my body began to tremble.

    I was wondering where 'grace' was in all of this.  I found myself uttering, "Where ARE you God?", and "God, you need to do something about this!"

    Yesterday, I wept all day.  It's like the turmoil and pressure surfaced, and my heart and body was expressing it.   It wasn't enjoyable, but I'm glad it happened.

     I woke up today, feeling better.  Feeling like the pressure is off, and that it was a TRIAL.  I've been on the verge of laughter.  A laughter that it's over for now,  and that we made it through and out.  Who would have thought that having life brought back around to the familiar would be so pleasurable.


      

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Mary this so neat AND open and honest.

Yeah I still call things like that "trials", "pains in
the ass", "total bummers"..etc.

I couldn't help but think about about Jesus on the
cross with His "Father why hast thou forsaken Me"? It
has been bouncing around in my mind every since I
quickly spoke to Jim about that last year.

      

It is peace[the kind we long for] to know that my life patterns do not distract or derail the Living God"-Adam

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   Adam, Thank you, thank you, thank you.  Dave was saying through this, "Light and momentary".  I was like 'what are you talking about'.  When he was saying something about 'character building' on FB, Bill came on this response, "I think you've had enough character building for now."  We both jumped on THAT with our "like."

    I LOVE how you brought up that quote of Jesus, and I so appreciate that, because I also had this thought, "you haven't resisted yet to the point of shedding blood," so I had some reflection about it anyway. LOVELY...that was my derogatory thought at the time.

    I'm glad you liked the openness.  I didn't even know where to post it, but you might be seeing more of it. 

    Thank you Adam.  Thank you for relating to me on this.


      

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Mary, I also appreciate how you have expressed your experiences here. I especially love the sound of your relief. 

      

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  I love you, Jim! 

      

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Thank you so much for sharing your heart, Mary. This will touch many hearts for good, of that I am sure.

      

What do you see when you look at me? Not the visible me that your eyes can see. For in Christ I am dead, yet alive and free. Free to be it all, as he lives in me.
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   Ron, I have brothers.  I have brothers that have really known me here, those that have loved and cared for me, and you are one of them.


    I was thinking tonight, that we don't always see the end from the beginning.  I think that Dave has been carrying 'unimaginable' burdens lately.  His father is in a care center tonight, possibly going home in a few days.  The future is unclear and uncertain as to whether he'll be able to live independently or not, or how the progression of this disease will go.  

    If you think of him, or think to say a prayer for him, I know it would mean quite alot to him.


      

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Mary here is something I wrote this morning on Jim's
blog under the heading 'How Do you Stay Rooted So
Strongly". I am hoping it will encourage others..


"What I'm suggesting to you is that your own
realization of the futility to stand against this
man leaves you with no option other than to know
where your life REALLY resides."_Jim


In many of your helpful responses over the years, I
have seen things like this stated on many occasions.
This morning I made a bit of a conclusion about the
nature of your helpful insight. The conclusion is
that you are simply explaining the promised reality
of God as described by Paul to work ALL things
together for the good for those who love Him. That
is actually and quite literally what you are
describing here. Many will never realize it because
it is not worded that way, really ever in your
writing responses but, that is exactly what you are
describing. Even things I can remember you saying
about 'all of life is our training ground in Christ'
are explaining this exact same promise. It explains
exactly what you have written above. All those
'threatening' and seemingly 'wasted' experiences are
actually A God of love working out His truthful
understanding to us miraculously in the midst...that
is for us who are in Him and have been given the
mind of Christ so as to understand the things freely
given to us in the midst of any and all situations.
How else could we 'rejoice' whenever we enter into
tough circumstances?

You know in Romans were Paul says the we rejoice in
our trials? Also that trials produce perseverance?
We can easily look at that from a fleshly
perspective[and most often do] and think that this
is some call to a worldly grunt- it- out kind of
thing. But that is not what he was describing . He
was talking about the EFFECT of knowing this grace
in all things that PRODUCES a sense of perseverance
in this world that actually preserves us inwardly!
That is how come we are then making claim to
perseverance! Because of something inside us that is
revealed in our tough situations that is SO heavenly
that we could not contrive it from any other place
than the miraculous royalty of the Son of God. We
are not on the outside looking in, we are in the
Christ and are given all the benefits of having the
very joining together of Him who is perfect before
God.




      

It is peace[the kind we long for] to know that my life patterns do not distract or derail the Living God"-Adam

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Adam, I really appreciated having read this on theshovel.net, so I am very glad to see that you also posted it here for those who may otherwise miss it.    I love how you have seen into the true meaning in what I've written. :)

Jim


      

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    Adam,

        I had not read this until now, having posted another thread under the RLinC earlier today, but having read it now I LOVE it!   Insightful!!!  Hopping over to read Jim's blog now to read the blog, and your response there.


      

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awesome you guys!  awesome!

i am going down a wabbit twail for a few minutes ... here goes:

hey, mclady    ... what is the update on mcdave's dad now?  how is he doing?  how are you guys doing?  any more blizzard-visits?  sheeeesh!  i can not even imagine having to go through all that!  i would be a useless frozen human popsicle!    do you guys have power outages with those blizzard conditions, too?  do you have to use emergency generators ... that kind of thing?  i mean, if you had one, that is? 

i know it would be great to have one for hurricane visits that bring power outages here sometimes, but ... we don't. 

and you have to get out and DRIVE on ice!!?   see, i have lived a sheltered life in that arena!  i have never had to live in such conditions.  god has pretty much kept me in hot weather parts of the world.  i guess he knows best what i can 'take' and what i can't.    altho' ... really ... i can't 'take' either very well at all! 

i just thank god for your survival of such dangerous living conditions!  it is truly dangerous, i tell you!    i mean, really ... do you guys even think that way, after having pretty much lived in it all your lives?  i mean, do you kind of just take it for granted that that is how life is, if you know what i mean?  it is amazing to me is all, 'cuz i have never had to live like that. 

i wonder about such things like having enough heat to be warm, hot water to thaw out in, do the pipes burst?  things like that. 

i know i know ... i am a silly ninny!  but i DO wonder about those things when i think of you, my friends living in that kind of weather, like i am sure you are curious about us sometimes when you hear about hurricane conditions, and things like that.



      

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i especially LOVED this, adam:

"... something inside us that is revealed in our tough situations that is SO heavenly that we could not contrive it from any other place than the miraculous royalty of the Son of God. We are not on the outside looking in, we are in the Christ and are given all the benefits of having the very joining together of Him who is perfect before God." <adam

so true!  we know where/in whom it is all sourced, for we know where/in whom we are sourced.   

thank you for sharing all that adam.   

oh yeah, i love the following from jim, too: 

'all of life is our training ground in Christ' <adam quoting jim

i would love to read some more about that, too! 






      

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  Sorry Sher, I really wanted to connect with you yesterday on this, but the dang interruptions, other connections (a last family Christmas) kept pulling me away.

  His (Dave's Dad) is home.  I really don't want to talk about it, because I got burned-out from EVERYTHING today (you know, low energy, but still having to be present for these get-togethers.), but I'll give you the the brief update:  he's home (yesterday) from staying in a nursing home recovering from the last hospitalization - his diagnosis a little over a year ago: chronic heart failure.  He'll have some permanent nursing care at home. don't know how much.  He able to be independent for awhile, but don't know for how long.
    

   No, we have no generator.  Have never lost power during a blizzard, only in the summer with thunderstorms.  The only thing that would be a concern would be having your furnace go out.  That happened once for us, but our gas fireplace was good backup keeping our livingroom warm having the furnace repaired/replaced.  They're prepared to get to you quick during those times.   The highway department is pretty efficient at getting the roads plowed the day after a stormYou hope everyone stays inside (your kids) and aren't  on the roads at the time  ( and most of the time they have the good winter weather sense to stay in! )  If there is an emergency while driving (getting stuck, car problems) there  is that wonderful invention called the 'cell phone' lol, so one can call for help if needed (on the road is the only time I use one). Most people have towing insurance.  It's suggested that people keep blankets, matches, candles, jumper cables in the car during the winter, and of course dress WARMLY.  COLUMBIA makes insulated and warm jackets(of course, other manufactures do to,  but mine is a COLUMBIA and I'm staying with that brand.   The SHOVELING is the most burdensome part of the winter, you know all about that, but when Dave goes out he wears a mask and scarf that covers his face and neck.  I dress warmly too.  As you would imagine, the retail stores  are making a bundle selling snowblowers up here this year, and I hope after THIS year we buy one for next year at the end of the season (prices low)

     When it's bitter cold, well below zero, most people stay inside.  That's when it can be rather dangerous, and you don't find many taking risks.  

     For me, personally, I don't know....I have wonderful memories of playing in as a child...snow men, snow balls, sledding, snow 'angels', and it''s really pretty when it snows 'nicely', covering everything with this beautiful bright white,the air crisp and clean, and you feel cozy inside by a warm fire, but the last one came on like a fury (colliding with Dave's Dad's hospitalization), and I remember saying, "It's snowing again today, and I'd like to send this Arctic air mass back where IT belongs!" UGH!

    Love ya!

     



      

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